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“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you 

don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not 

doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or 

less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have 

problems with our friends or family, we blame the other 

person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will 

grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive 

effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason 

and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no 

reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you 

understand, and you show that you understand, you can 

love, and the situation will change” 

- Thich Nhat Hanh